Bisexuality - part II

A while back, I talked about bisexuality as the alienated species and on 2nd read of my then blog, I decided to further justify my point about bisexuality.

I am a bisexual.  There I said it.  I hold an interesting life where I had dated  many different people (of both genders) in my life.  At the moment of writing I am single, but when I reminisce upon my past relationships I held absolutely no regret nor shame about any of them.



 
Now I believe that as a bisexual, I am and probably will always be alienated by the heterosexuals and homosexuals of the society.  I guess as the '3rd' or the middle type, it gave us no home.  Personally all my boyfriends are straight and all my girlfriends are gay.. as such I never dated another bisexual in my life.  I do, however, know quite a number of 'us' around.  Unlike the cliche punt attached to most bisexuals, I am not jumping from women to women until the 'right guy' came along and so that I can get married and have a blissful life.  At my age, I strongly believe that having a blissful life should be achieved by me and only me.  I should be the one making the money for myself, upholding my morality and integrity during the process of achieving bliss.

But I digressed.  Bisexuality is very much a misunderstood sexuality.  A lot of people thought of it as having the best of both worlds.  But for those of you out there who had been hurt by either men or women knew that in reality there is no 'best' in either world,  We made do, we struggled, we broke up, we survived.  It was a pretty ho-hum of society standards and nothing to do with sexuality.

I have friends who told me that they are bisexual but throughout their life had only dated one gender (usually similar to their own).  Now these are not right, in my opinion, because it felt as though they wanted to come across as being more 'neutral' and would like to keep their options open.  When you are bisexual, you genuinely enjoyed either gender, not just as friends but as sexual partners where you shared your innermost vulnerability.

I am very comfortable with being who I am.  I liked the fact that I can mutually enjoy companionship of both men and women (though I sincerely don't believe in threesome nor do I believe in dating two people (of whatever gender) at one time.  When you are with a man or woman and dated anyone else, it is considered cheating.  No middle way about it.  That said, I am one of those people who can see the best of both genders.  Men and their tough exterior and women with their soft core.  Both equally as appealing to me.  I am more attracted by personality and not the skin that wrapped and defined us.  At the end of the day, for us, when we turned off the lights, everyone is only human.

K